As someone who struggles with wanting to be authentically known for who I am while simultaneously holding all my cards close to my vest and not letting anyone else see them so that I can be completely safe, this blog post really hit home for me.
Words are so powerful – that much is true as well as cliche. What I love most about John’s post is that it is fearless. Not only is it fearless, but it’s fearless in its embrace of a type of masculinity that I personally think would help our society as a whole. His assertion that “thinking out loud, whether talking it, or writing it, living out loud, cannot be as harmful as the world makes it seem” is a wise one. Of course, there are limits. One does not go spilling all their secrets in a public forum – there’s a time and place for everything and sometimes I think that we frequently have to make peace with the fact that for some things, there may never be a time and a place.
As social media has infiltrated every corner of our lives, it’s hard to keep parts of our lives separate from others. That’s hard for me – I value my privacy but I also want to be “known.” It’s why I choose who is in my life with a lot of thought and who gets into the inner circle with even more thought. I feel like a lot of people think I’m rude because I am not super talkative in social environments where there are a lot of people I don’t know. I take a long time to get to know people. But it’s not really being rude, it’s just me being cautious. But the flip side is that even though I am cautious, I also very much long for connection and community. It’s hard to balance it. The older I get, the better I get at doing it, but it’s still ultimately a very frustrating experience.
So living out loud is a good idea, but naturally, I’ll temper it with my Gemini caution.
BTW, I found this blog post from a site called The Good Men Project. I don’t have any idea if this is a wacky PromiseKeepers type thing or not, but I have liked what I have read on their site so far. They seem to respect men without being completely anti-masculinity, if that makes any sense.